Why can’t gay people get married?
The first answer to the question of why gay people can’t get married is usually “Because the bible says marriage is between a man and a woman” Ok, fair enough, I’ll follow your line of reasoning. Clearly if the rules of marriage are dictated by the bible and the bible says that marriage MUST be between a man and a woman, then same sex marriage just isn’t allowed.
But what about divorce?
As far as I know (I could be wrong), when you get married, you’re making a promise to god to be with this person, no matter what, till death do you part. Not till happiness no longer exists, not till money problems become too burdensome, not till you realize your partner is abusive. The bible says, til death do us part.
Seems to me like people have made a special provision to allow divorce. Their interpretation of what ‘marriage’ is and the terms of marriage based on the bible has conveniently been altered to allow them to get divorced if and when they need to. The distortion of ‘the rules’ gets even worse when you consider the possibility of an annulment. From the little I know (thanks to my high school religion classes) a marriage can be declared, null (i.e. it never really existed) if certain things can be proven. For instance, if it can be proven that from before the vows were made, one of the individuals married had never intended to get married and be faithful. Again, a special ‘interpretation’ being made in order to allow a convenient loop hole.
So my question is, if you can make a provision to allow divorce and if the rules of marriage could be flexible enough to allow annulments, why can’t they be flexible enough to allow two people who love each other to get married, despite them being of the same sex? I know, I know, because it’s ‘wrong’, right?
Both parties must be believers of the faith
So, for two people to be married both people must be believers of the faith, right? The problem is that VERY often only one person (if that) is a believer. The other person is just going along for the ride. It’s not entirely uncommon for neither people to be true believers, but, everybody loves a nice ceremony right?
So here again, we have a situation where people are getting married, that according to the bible, aren’t supposed to be getting married. Seems like more convenient bending of the rules and requirements for marriage to me. So again, if we can allow 2 people who have no faith at all, or are unequally yolked to get married, why can’t we allow 2 other people who may have more faith, who may be equally yolked to get married? I know, because it’s wrong, right?
They can form a ‘union’! Just dont call it marriage!
This is probably the most ridiculous of all the reasons given. It hardly seems fair to say one set of humans can do whatever they please, but yet another set is only allowed this set of privileges. With the only reason being that you don’t LIKE them and what they’re doing? By saying they can ‘form a union, but don’t call it marriage’ you’re saying they should willingly label themselves as a 2nd class of couple.
It all boils down to discrimination
At the end of the day, if you’re going to stand hard and fast by the bible, and say no, gay people cannot get married because the bible says so. Then you’ll need to stand fast by a whole lot of other things as well,
- NO fornication. This one should be easy, right?
- NO work on sundays! Hope you don’t need to go to the doctor or supermarket
- NO Capital punishment! No killing around here, not even if it’s in the name of ‘justice’
- NO Lotto, Pick 3, race horses, poker, raffles, sports betting or bingo! Gambling is WRONG!
The list of ‘accommodations’ people make in order to do the things they enjoy could go on and on.
If you’re so concerned about them doing something wrong, let them! Gays getting married has absolutely no impact on your life. Didn’t Jesus say something about not judging others? Leave that job up to him. Be concerned with yourself and what you may be doing that’s wrong. If they can find a church and a pastor to marry a gay couple, let them do it. The job isn’t yours to judge. As you can see from the VERY short list above, there’s quite a bit of ‘wrong’ that you need to worry about yourself!
So, stop discriminating against gays and using the bible and your ‘flexible’ religion as the crutch to do so. You want to be treated with the same rights and provisions as everyone else in the world. It’s only fair you do the same for your fellow humans!